Title

Marital Question

Question

Aslam u Alykum

 I was married in 2001 first time, in 2008 i came to know my wife has cheated me, i have two kids earlier, in 2008 my wife birth a baby that was due to illeagle relation with my cusion brother, wife admited her mistake and asked to forgive, my parents requested not to devorce, i accepted their decsion and requested i will marry to another girl, i was married in 2009 again, life have beocme worst after the second merrage, 2nd wife who knows before marrige that i am married earlier, is forcing me to devorce first wife, i cant do it due to multi reasons, my two kids from first wife and she is my cussion too, i love very much with second wife, i have a cute son from her, i dont want to devorce any one, but some times due to continues tention i thought to devorce 2nd wife, kindly guide me in light of Quran and Hadees what i should do in this situation?

regards

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. 

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh. 

It is incorrect for your second wife to tell you to divorce your first wife. You cannot accede to her request as that will lead to Zulm on the first wife. You should also not divorce the second wife simply because of the polygamous related tensions.

You were man enough to marry two wives. Now be man enough to bear and tolerate both wives. Do not succumb to your emotions and throw in the towel. According to Shariah, you should maintain equality between both wives. You chose a path knowing all its implications, now manage it.

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Mufti Ebrahim Desai.