Fatwa: # 18835
Category: Marriage
Country: Bangladesh
Date: 21st July 2010

Title

I loved a girl so much but she hurt me a lot & left me.I wanted to marry her & lead a pious life with her.But my all dreams have been broken.Now,i want to pay heed to my religion &

Question

I loved a girl so much but she hurt me a lot & left me.I wanted to marry her & lead a pious life with her.But my all dreams have been broken.Now,i want to pay heed to my religion & want wok for "Akherat". And now can i pray to ALLAH  to give only to me the girl in 'Akherat'? and will Allah grant my this doa? because i want the girl stay only with me forever in Akherat. If i pray to Allah to forgive her,will Allah grant my this want?

Answer

 

In the name of Allāh, Most Gracious, Most Merciful  


Assalāmu ῾alaykum wa Rahmatullāhi Wabarakātuh

 

There are three issues to your query

 

  • Break up of your relationship
  • Your intention to marry
  • Akhirah

 

It is a natural phenomenon among dating couples that their partners are never loyal and faithful. Since the basis of the relationship is on Haraam, the relation will never prosper to be a source of peace and blessings. It is not surprising that the girl dumped you as woman who are exposed to these type of relationships normally jump from one to another depending on how of much their material greed is satisfied.

 

We are human and we are bound to err. It is unfortunate that you have became a victim of such a relationship. However, this should not deter you from entering into a relationship which is lawful. The benefits of a lawful relation are innumerable. It is natural for you to have feelings for the opposite gender and Islam encourages you to channel these feelings in a lawful manner. Shariah discourages one to abandon the practice of Nikah (marriage) as such practice is unnatural. Your intention to never marry is not in line with the spirit of Islam and Deen. You should therefore put the past to rest and search for a lawful partner with true Islamic ideals, morals and values. Having such a partner will become a source of your comfort and peace in this world and also a means of your situation in Akhirat.

 

May Allah grant you a compatible partner. May Allah grant you peace and solace, Ameen

 

And Allāh Ta῾āla Knows Best
Wassalāmu ῾alaykum 

 

Checked and Approved by:
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
Dārul Iftā

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