Fatwa: # 17888
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: Australia
Date: 4th May 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

Assalamu Alaikum,

my name is mohammed haneef, i am facing a real problem these days for which insha allah , i hope, i will get a solution from you....

i am 24 years old, i am doing masters degree in aerospace engineering now....there is always some kind of intrest in ""sex"" going on in my mind....i have told my family members that i needed marriage to avoid zina indirectly, but they dont understand my feelings....i have done fasting according to our prophets saying, but i have been fasting for a long time which has reduced my weight only.....if i think of marrying, i dont know how to find a girl.....also to marry, since i am a student now, cannot be able to marry since i have currently no earning....there is alking o haram things like brothel house etc., may allah protect me, i have kept avoiding for the sake of allah,.....i really wanted to get out of these situation, since i fear that it would interfere in my performance,,,,,also i am scared that i will be urged to go to these haram places to fulfill my needs.....

wat can i do....i have asked imams also but they dont give a proper answer.....does islaam have any answer for this???? i hope so since this is the only practical religion.....i even decided in my mind that i might go to a doctor to undergo surgery or medication to get rid of these sexual tensions, so that i dont commit fornication.......even if i wanted to go for halal way ""marriage"" there is no possibility for me......but frankly, i wanted to marry not only for this needs but also for my happy life,,inshaa allah...

my family dont care about me, nor have i the ability to marry a girl...wat to do....

please suggest ????

Answer

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