Fatwa: # 17853
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Arab Emirates
Date: 21st April 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu,

I was married 2 years back. Since then I've been living abroad with my husband's family. Throughout the period there have been a lot of problems since my parents-in-laws are hot-tempered. They often accused me and my family saying that we are not paying due respect to them in spite of us giving them constant visits and parties. Sadly, my mother died 12 years ago and i was brought up by my old grandmother. Since my mother is the one who is supposed to manage all these marriage related things, some mistakes did arise from our side (like not giving party when my in-laws went to India). But they are not ready to adjust and scolds me and my husband pointing out such things.


Recently my mother-in-law settled in India. So my husband and I decided to move to a smaller house so that we'll get privacy and we'll be able to avoid problems. So we asked our father-in-law to move to another house since this was very small to accommodate him. My husband showed him many houses. Despite that he was not ready to move and he came to this small house with us and is staying here with us. Now i am pregnant and cannot do the household work since i am extremely tired. My husband is ready to adjust, but my father-in-law is not. To add upto all the tension, father-in-law has decided to perform a major operation from here. My husband tried to convince him that my husband dont have sufficient leave and I am not in a good condition. So it is better to do it from India so that mother-in-law would be able to take care of him. My husband is ready to bear all the expenses. But father wont hear. He has made his mind and is adamant that he will do the operation from here.

Respected imam, is my father-in-law's attitude correct? Dont I have the right to live n a separate house if I am having problems with my in-laws? Please clarify my doubts.

Jazakallahu Khairun

Answer

DISCLAIMER - AskImam.org questions
AskImam.org answers issues pertaining to Shar'ah. Thereafter, these questions and answers are placed for public view on www.askimam.org for educational purposes. However, many of these answers are unique to a particular scenario and cannot be taken as a basis to establish a ruling in another situation or another environment. Askimam.org bears no responsibility with regards to these questions being used out of their intended context.
  • The Shar's ruling herein given is based specifically on the question posed and should be read in conjunction with the question.
  • AskImam.org bears no responsibility to any party who may or may not act on this answer and is being hereby exempted from loss or damage howsoever caused.
  • This answer may not be used as evidence in any Court of Law without prior written consent of AskImam.org.
  • Any or all links provided in our emails, answers and articles are restricted to the specific material being cited. Such referencing should not be taken as an endorsement of other contents of that website.
The Messenger of Allah said, "When Allah wishes good for someone, He bestows upon him the understanding of Deen."
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]