Fatwa: # 17851
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: South Africa
Date: 21st April 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

 

Assalamu Alaykum.

.I am 23 year old muslim female  and would like to get married to a boy that I like. . Everyone around thinks I am desperate but   I feel that I have found my marriage partner. The other proposals that I have received, were not what I had wanted and I am afraid of marrying someone I don’t like and ending up regretting it.

 

 

 I  keep praying and asking for whatever is right to happen and if not right then to end. But  things don’t end ,  and I feel even more positive about it. My mum has concerns  because the boy is from a poor home and will need to support his family too financially and that I will have a difficult life.

 

 

. I have performed Istikhaarah many times before  but I  don’t end up with any stong dis-inclinations for him.

 

 

 Are the concerns just the whispers of Shaytaan or a sign that he is not right for me? I’m not sure what to do.

 

 

 

 

Answer

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