Fatwa: # 17843
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Kingdom
Date: 19th April 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

i am married and i am currently living with my parents.  my mum has always been unfair to me.  she has always favoured my other sisters.  they be rude to her, despite that she prefers them over me.  she doesnt seem to trust me, she thinks i am too cunning and that i never want to spend my money in the house.  now she doesnt get on with my husband. my husband is also at fault.  my heart is totally pure for my mum, i never think bad or disrespect her.  she thinks i am too disrespctful.  these things are really hurting me.  i am just being depressed day by day.  i dont know how to make her believe that i am not like the way she thinks. 

i dont  think i can change her mind, but can you please suggest me what should i do.  is there anything in islam about this.  i sometimes become too upset and start crying and instead of comforting me she just says that this is my routine. if i become angry/upset  with her, she doesnt care at all.

Answer

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