Fatwa: # 17675
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: Pakistan
Date: 8th March 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

my question is of utmost importance.i was involoved with a guy for 3 years.but my parents did not agree to us getting married. the istikhara my mom got done was not good either. i  refused to accept that and in a matter of 3 months our relationship ended up at a very bad note. in my depression i started talking to another guy who is really nice and is true to me. he is not stable in life and it will take atleast another 2 years for him to be able to marry him.i met him and we committed the grave sin of fornication.i tried tp repent the first time but it happened at other times too unless i took a firm stand. now there is my cousin who wants to marry me. he has everything and is stable in life. he has had many affairs. and he knows about my first guy but not the second. my whole family wants tme to say yes but as yet a i have not agreed i can not tel any one about the second guy... i really love the guy i am involved with right now. but i donot know if after  years he will marry me or not.though we have every intention to.. and we are on good terms. am i allowed to do istikhara for my cousin? should i stay with the guy i am with. please let this be a confidential question. thankyou.

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