Fatwa: # 17645
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Arab Emirates
Date: 4th March 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

Assalam alaikum,

Im single unmarried girl ,i had a sex with my lover ,,he told me that he will marry me he came to home ,he spoke to my dad ,,,,and my parents where ok with him ,,,but they doest now i made sex with him ,my boyfreind told me not to say ,,becoz both are heart patients .they cant take this matter easy ..and he told he will look after everything....one day  my my father called their parents ..they refused for our marriage coz of some issues ....i told my boyfreind to say to thier parents that we are into a relation ship ....but he refused and He said if my parents are not interested i cant marry you , ...and later he refused to marry me also it happend before 4 months now we are not in touch with each other ...and my parents doesnt know about our relation ship ,,,i feel very guilty ..i made tauba ....now they are looking a boy for me for my marriage but i still love this guy .....i'am trying to forget him ....after this,  one of his freind proposed me .he knows about me and his freinds relationship,he said he will marry me  ..and now we are planning to get married  ,..but i feel very embaracing getting married with his close freind,is it will be jaiz getting married with his freind ,in future anything will happen ...and even my parents doesnt know that the second guy is the freind of first guy ....i my self feel very ashamed ....,and y im not ready to get married with some other person accept him ,becoz i  cant keep secret for my life  that i had a relation ship with my x boy freind ..i feel very guilty conciuos please help me ...u im feeling taht .i cant live a normal life like other girls ...i realise now i did a big mistake .

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