Fatwa: # 17620
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: Bangladesh
Date: 2nd March 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

Dear Mufti Saheb and All at Darul Iftaa, Assalamu Alaikum.

i hv been a long time reader of your website and now i stand at a difficult point in my life where i need advise from the Islamic Perspective.

I have been in a unhealthy marriage for almost 4 years and it is currently at the culminating point. I was all convinced to finish it off but i am having difficulties pulling an end to it due to social implications of a divorce in our society. On the other hand i got married to someone i met from another country, who is pious, caring , loving and is currently carrying my child without by first wife's knowledge. i chose my second wife based on her piousness and Islamic way of life which was missing fm my first wife.

But due to confusion put in by friends , relatives , i am confused as to what to do now. my first marriage was a disaster in all senses and neither did we have much in common to keep the relationship alive. she wanted to hold on to it so that no one could blame her for the divorce. but then i did spend 4 years with her and now i'm confused with what to do , as i hv two diff paths in front with two very different outcomes. Part of me wants to go back to my first wife , but then the thought of my new wife and my unborn child stops me as i cant abandon them at this stage.

and since i hv no one to give me advise based on islamic thoughts, i felt it wise to resort to you. I look forward to receiving your reply.

Wassalam

Answer

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