Fatwa: # 17523
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Kingdom
Date: 16th February 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

Assalamu Alaikum,

I need your advice. My wife and i dont get on even though we've been married for 12years. Any advice i give to her fals on death ears. I've had problems from day one in my marriage from her parents interferience and wifes lack of support and understanding which ultimately i left her for one year. As i have two girls we decided to give it another try. After one year we got back and made intention for umrah. Anyway i had not enough money for umrah but wife insisted that we go. Shes so stubborn and i spent all my savings for umrah and struggled after coming back. After that i told wife that i manage all finances and i will give you so much a month for running the cost of the house. She wouldnt agree. In fact she wouldnt say anything. This got me so frustrated. Eventually, i decided to move out to give her some space as there was no communication, theres no goal and no compatability between us. She then involved my parents and said alot of things about me which werent true. I told wife that our problems dont warrant any ones involvement and we should sort them out ourselves. Her actions showed me to be worthless and now i find that i cant do anything in life, nor for myself, nor my kids and my existence is becoming meaningless.

I found it degrading when she called my parents as it was all one sided and i am only with her because of my children.

My question is that as i no longer love, respect my wife and i cant fulfill her rights due to whats going on, can i divorce her? My only concern are my children, as wife and i argue most times its in front of the kids and i dont like this, and cant see my sitiuation getting better so does shari'ah allow separation in this matter?

 

Jazakallah

Answer

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