Fatwa: # 17516
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Kingdom
Date: 15th February 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

asalam o alaikum...my question is regarding a marriage proposal. there is a marriage proposal come for me the guy is my sister in laws brother he recently got married with his cousin but within 4 months got divorce...they had already asked for my hand before too as well as my older sisters' but then he got married to his cousin. the people themselves are good as far as we have seen...my dad as well as my whole family agree with this rishta..but my mum does not at all. she strongly disagrees due to the fact that there will be interlinked relationships in the house (becoz of my brother married to his sister). my mum also asked this khalifa sahib in pakistan who did hisaab and found that its not a good match and predicted that i would go bemaar (ill) if we went ahead with it. my mum strongly disagrees ...but i feel we should go ahead with it because my mum is looking for rishte for me on the internet and i dont think i can trust any one else especially from the internet. so at the end of al this i have repeatedly said to mum to do isthikhara but she does not do it...she avoids the topic...i strongly agree with the rishta because i have talked to him in the past and we get along with eachother. i am sooo confused...i fear that if i do istihara myself then mum might shout at me if it becomes green and we have to go ahead with it  because she does not agree with the rishta. please tell me what should i do? also, do u think that dawatha (interlinked relationship) is a valid reason to say no as well as what te khalifa sahib said - also he said that he might hit me too in the future... please help me

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