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There was a girl who was very modest and kind. She used to offer prayers, recite quran and wear scarf and her dressing was modest as well. She use to work in an office but whenever had to interact with namehrams, she tried to avoid any eye contact with them. She was shy and conservative.

She was 21 years of age and up till now she never got hooked up with any boy as she did not believe on any relationship before marriage. Then came a person in her life who first became a very good friend and soon convinced her for his love for her. She kept telling him she wont take this relationship any further as she doesn’t know, if he is the one for him. But he was very determined and used to say that he is so serious about her that they can have nikah whenever she say.

Due to her responsibilities she could not accept this offer at the moment then it was decided that as soon as tht boy’s sister is married the boy would send official proposal to her family. Things were pretty serious and by now the girl was also convinced by that boy that they are made for each other. That girl did istikhara in the beginning of this relationship and kept praying to Allah that if he is not the one for her then plz end every thing and don’t let this relationship extend but the more she prayed this the stronger the bond between them became. Istikhara was also positive to an extent tht after istikhara relationship was getting better day by day. Both of them were mashAllah se namazi and sincere with each other. This boy’s mother knew about this relationship and she had an idea about gifts that that girl use to give and she had informed this to that boys father as well. At first they thought that their son is in some kind of bad habits but he explained them that he is not doing all this for fun, instead he is pretty serious about that girl and wish to marry her once his all responsibilities are over. At this point his father was like that he has no issue as long as their son fulfills his responsibilities.

That boy’s mother was always biased about that girl, she used to think that an outsider girl is provoking him against his family and for some reason she did not like her with out even meeting her. On the other hand this girl had already accepted them as her family and used to pray for them and offer nafil shukrana in every bad time of there’s. She had all respect for them like her own parents even knowing that they do not like her much. Finally, there came a day when they met her in a function, his mother came to meet her coldly. His father also saw her from a distance. This girl is nice but not very good looking. Within a week his parents sent a proposal for marriage for their son for their own niece. Despite, his arguments they officially declared their niece as their future daughter in law. That boy gave up and accepted what his parents wanted and the girl who never wanted a boy in her life who was assured of everything, was completely ruined. She cried in front of his mother of not doing this and gave her all kinds of promises as she could but she ended no where but in a disaster. Now she is completely disappointed from her life and offers namaz and cries to Allah for the injustice that has been done to her. She never abused or cursed that boy or his family coz she left every thing to Allah. That boy’s own sister was engaged with a boy of her choice i.e. a love marriage and her parents had no issue in her own daughter’s love marriage but when it came to some one else’s daughter they simply rejected her with out giving her a single chance. My question is who is going to be responsible for this girl’s tears and her life being miserable.