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I'm confused about a situation. Kindly help me out. I'm being married for 5 years to my uncle's brother-in-law. That uncle's wife is my husband's sister. I still dont have any baby after undergoing an ICSI treatment. There are some complications on both partner's part. I lived with my in-laws for the first 2.5 years of my marriage. During that time, there were a number of fight between my husband and one of his brothers who also lived with us. He is a psychological patient, so my husband couldn't really take my side in front of him. My mother-in-law also took my brother-in-laws side always. He is a psycho when it comes to the cleanliness of the house or any matter related to his mother or sister(who is my uncle's wife). My uncle and aunt do not share a good relationship as husband and wife although they have been married for over a decade. Due to their fights, our life got disturbed as well since my mother-in-law would start blaming my parents for ill treating her daughter in the initial days of marriage. My brother-in-law always say that they married me to take out their anger. But thankfully my husband is a very balanced person. He always was there for me, but he could not do anything for me in front of his family. Some 2.5 years back, due to my husbands tarnsfer, we moved to another city. Over here the two of us are having a very good time.

Now the thing is that there has been an opportunity for us to move back to our city. His parents are old and they would be happy if we move back with them. I dont have any objection to that as well, as I also care for them. But there are two problems awaiting us. First is that we dont have a baby as yet so everyone is commenting on me that I have a problem thats why we are not having a baby. I'm afraid to hear all this every day. Secondly, my brother-in-law would not let us live without his interference. I have only asked my husband to move to the house but to the other portion which is empty and is also maintained by my brother-in-law. But he says that his interference would not stop there as well since he thinks that its his house only and only he is able to make decisions about the change in interiors, cleanliness and all. My husband says it due to his experience with his eldest brother's wife as well. He thinks that the matters would worsen like that as they have with the eldest brother who also lives in a separate house now. He says that if we go to our city we have to live in the same circumstances, which is quite unbearable for me.

I also want to make clear that the house of my in-laws in like a jail. One cannot move about anywhere without having prior permission from my mother-in-law. Even if you get the permission, the talking done by her drains all your energies for the next time. I dont want to go back in such circumstances but also I think of the parents who need us. So, I'm really confused. Kindly reply me in the light of Islam, what we should do.

Thanks so much

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