Fatwa: # 17433
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United Kingdom
Date: 3rd February 2009

Title

Unanswered

Question

i am a married man and have been married for nearly 13 years. i have two children, my son is 11 and daughter is 7. i have never been happy with my wife and am with her only for the sake of my children. ive been very unhappy in the whole of my married life. We have no form of communication what soever, we sleep seperate and i avoid her in the house. i hardly stay home and dont talk to her. over the last 3 years i have met a divorcee muslim woman and want to marry her. i believe that she is the only one who understands me and loves me and can give me the happiness. she is the only one who has been there for me.

i love her very much and want to be with her but i also love my children too and am scared my wife will take them away from me if i mention divorce. i think im commiting more sin by being in this marriage and being with another woman behind my wifes back. i have stopped trying in my marriage as ive been pushed away looking for attention elsewhere. i went against islam and i want to stop it but i love this woman too much and want to marry her. she is a divorcee with a child. i know my wife will never accept me having another wife. i pray to Allah for guidance and so does she. this has been going on for too long. she has given me an ultimatum as she doesnt want to commit sin as she cant move on because im not letting her. she can see im not happy in my marriage and im too afraid of losing the kids. im so stuck please advise me, i am so stressed and under so much pressure. please help me.. jazak allah

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