Fatwa: # 17158
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: Kenya
Date: 23rd September 2008

Title

Unanswered

Question

I'm married, now for 7 years, two children. I think I'm caring for them well. For a long time (in school and through college), I admired the ways of my Muslim friends: commitment, honesty, dedication to God etc. In about a year ago, I wanted to discover my spirituality and started reading Islamic books. I found out that Islam is such simple religion. Best of all is the way it keeps one close to God all the time. Recently, as you can guess, I converted, now I'm Muslim. I'm taking my Master degree. At the University, I've met a Muslim girl and I started falling in love with her. I've let her know about my feelings. Recently, she has accepted my love. Question is: When do I tell her that I've another wife? I want to marry her. Before, I told another girl about my first wife and she did not accept to be second wife. I have told my Sheik at my Mosque about this. He listened to my fears and advised that I should take my time, one thing at a time. I requested him that, when I'm ready to marry her, I'll ask him and other respectable men to go see her brother and disclose the truth then. What do you advice me?

Answer

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