Fatwa: # 17038
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: South Africa
Date: 18th August 2008

Title

Unanswered

Question

My husband and I are currently arguing over the "mother-in-law" daughter-in-law issue,  it has been going on for 5 months.

Five mnth ago, my mother-in-law embarrassed me and my family at a function that my parents held,  she stormed out of the venue shouting and my mum and me,  I don't know what the reason for this obtrusive behaviour was.

My husband stood by, did and said nothing!!!! I can understand because that is his mother and he does have duties towards her!!!!  After this entire drama we moved away to another city, I have not spoken to her about the problem and have distanced myself from the family, I know that I am not perfect, but I NEVER argued with her, NEVER did anything to warrant this type of behaviour towards me,  my problem arises when my husband expects me to get along with his mum and his family after

this embarrasing situation,  he expects me just to forget!!! My point is that they obviously have no regard towards me,  I am not wanted in that family then why should I intrude where I do not belong, where I am not wanted!!!  My husband can see the pain of his mother,  he feels bad for his sisters,  but what about his wife who had to leave behind a loving family and move 600k away from them,  why can't he understand the hurt and pain that I am going through,  I was humilated by people that I "THOUGHT' was family!!!!- it is a bitter pill to swallow!!

Answer

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