Fatwa: # 16076
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: South Africa
Date: 21st January 2008

Title

Unanswered

Question

Asalaamulakum

Please i urgently need help with this matter,I hve known this boy for Five years,He has proposed for marriage,my dad thinks that he is not the suitable patner for me for various reason,I have made an istigaarah salaah and ask my dad if we can continue with the plans and if this marraige is not meant to be,It will not happen as i have perfomed my Istigarrah salah,Both me and this boy feel that we want to be married to each other.

I have tried to speak to my dad,to let us get married,he ignores me completely and pretends as if there is no issue to deal with.I feel as if though me dad doesnot care about my feelings and what his reaction and this sitution is doing to me.He has actually told me a few times that he will make the decision and the decesion that he makes has nothing to do with me and the boy.

I am 28yrs old and really feel that my dad is taking opportunity from me,part of me feels like i need to go and get married without my dad being my witness,as much as its not the way i want it to be and i know that its not correct,these are the thaught that are now arousing in my mine.coz i just donot feel as if my dad cares at all.

I have always tried my best to please my parents and make them happy.and i feel as if though the one time i need them to make me happy they are being selfish

Please assist as to what i could do

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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