Fatwa: # 16033
Category: Jurisprudence and Rulings...
Country: India
Date: 17th December 2007

Title

I dont want to keep a beard

Question

I am a young Muslim. I fear Allah and want to have a beard. My Parents oppose me and I am confused, if I can oppose them in this. I fear Allah, lest He should hold me responsible for any of these acts (Shaving or disobeying parents).

Also my father (as told to me) fell ill, because I did not obey him at first. He stays in KSA, and I am in India. What do you say I should do?

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh

Islam teaches us to have the highest amount of respect for our parents.  Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’an:

وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا . وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا (17– 23)

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and do good to parents.  If any of them or both of them reach old age, do not say to them: uff (a word or expression of anger or contempt) and do not scold them, and address them with respectful words. (17-27)

It is clear from the above ayah that the status of parents in the eyes of Shari’a is after the rights of Allah.  To please the parents and keep them happy is a virtuous deed while disobeying them or causing any discomfort to them is a grave sin.

Therefore, one should try his utmost to please the parents and keep them happy.

However, when there is a clash between the commandments of Allah and the pleasure of the parents, then the commandments of Allah will have to be fulfilled. It is mentioned in a hadith:

على عن النبى صلى الله عليه وسلم قال لا طاعة لمخلوق فى معصية الله عز وجل

Ali (Radhiyallahu Anhu) narrates that Rasulullah (Sallalahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “There is no obedience to creation in the disobedience of Allah”. (Ahmad)

To keep a beard is wajib.  A person who shaves or trims his beard is considered a fasiq. Try to win your parents favor through other means.  Inshallah, by doing khidmat of the parent and being obedient in other aspects, they will over look the aspect of beard and accept it over time.

And Allah knows best

Wassalam

Ml. Ehzaz Ajmeri,
Student Darul Iftaa

Concurred by:

Ml. Abu Yahya
Student Darul Iftaa

Darul Iftaa

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