Fatwa: # 15494
Category: Marriage (Nikah)
Country: United Kingdom
Date: 7th August 2007

Title

How to be fair with my parents and wife?

Question

I'm married and have 1 child, how to be fair between your mum and dad and your wife and son, because my mum thimks that my wife took me from them and my wife thinks mum and dad taking me from her while I'm trying to do my best please both sids

what deen saying in that matter?

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh.


Jazakallah for writing to us regarding the problems you are having in your relationships with the family.

I start off by asking you some questions.Are you living with your parents? If so, why is it necessary for you to be with them?

 

Was it your decision to get married  and did you choose your wife yourself or was she chosen by your parents?

 

How old are you, your parents and your wife?

 

It is sad when the family gets unnecessarily tied up in knots like this. This must be a very difficult situation for you and I make dua that Allah Ta'ala makes it easy for you and the whole family. Ameen.

 

Please write and tell me more about your family, how many siblings you have and what work you and your parents are engaged in.

And Allah knows best

Wassalam

Sister Fadila
Social Dept.

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

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