Fatwa: # 15244
Category: Misc. Fiqh
Country: United States
Date: 21st May 2007

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Assalamualikum mufti,
please reply my question...
I am 19 years old and my father died a year ago.I have no mother and no brothers and sisters.I am living with my fathers sister, her two sons and her husband.My father has 10 brothers and sisters and due to his death, they all try to be my guardian, yet they all have different opinions and confuse me.So sometimes i am desperate to marry and have a family of my own.There are many proposals but none seem the one i like just hearing of them. A few days ago, there was a proposal, the boy, my family knows for 9 years. he is Islamic and very good character and moral,they also knew my father very well, good student, a good man.Every one from both his side and my side were ok with it, i also wanted it. We just saw each other once in gaurdians presence.My aunt did  istekhara about it, and she said she dreamed of thorns. and so they all cancelled it the marriage. I didnt make istekhara, but i prayed nafal, and salatul haja, and every thing seemed so perfect. i had no say to my family and sometimes i am feeling depressed. I know what ever Allah does is right for me, but sometimes i wonder whether her istekhara was the right one, because my family made mistakes so many times, that is a reason why i dont have a mother, my family is scattered, i dont trust because im afraid of their whims.My question is, if i pray and ask Allah to give me that same boy, as my husband, will it be a sin, or will it be going against Allahs will? Please pray for me.
zazakAllah

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