Fatwa: # 14998
Category: Divorce (Talaaq)
Country: South Africa
Date: 19th March 2007

Title

Kinaaya Divorce

Question

About 3 years back my wife and i moved to a new place  because of financial reasons . we discussed the move for about six months  before we moved . during this time we had a few problems , but sorted it out  . just when i thought that we had passed this phase of our lives things got worse . we began fighting more and more .  during  one of these fights  i told her in an enraged state to pack up her stuff and leave if she so wished  . i also asked her if she wanted a divorce from me , if it would make her life better .  alhumdulillah it did not come to this . and today we are  at peace with each other . My question is  , i have recently been reading  about  family breakdowns and such related problems , and am wondering if our nikka is still valid , i cannot recall how many times we have decided to end our marrige .

Answer

In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

Assalaamu `alaykum waRahmatullahi Wabarakatoh

Your statement “to pack her stuff and leave” falls under the category of Kinaayah (ambiguous) divorce. In Shariah, a Kinaayah divorce is suspended on the intention of the husband. If the intention of the husband was to not to issue a divorce when saying these words, one irrevocable (Talaaq e Baain) will take effect. However, if the husband had no intention of divorce, no divorce will be effective (Qudoori Page 144 Qadeemi).

The second statement “if she wanted a divorce from me, if it would make her life better” does not constitute divorce. ( Ibid Page 148)

According to Shariah a divorce will not take effect if one merely intends a divorce. The husband must verbally say the words of Talaaq in order for the divorce to be effective.

And Allah knows best

Checked and Approved by:

Mufti Ebrahim Desai

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